Heartbreak Happens

It's been almost a year since I have written, and let me tell you has that year been a tumultuous tumble. In the past year, I've broken up with my fiance and had my heart stomped on a couple more times by him. I am in a better place, and I must say that now I realize how co-dependant I used to be on someone else.

Heartbreak happens, but we cannot let it define us. Loss of love and friendships happen, but we can't let it taint the memories. The fact of the matter is that at one point in our lives, those people were exactly what we needed at that moment. Whether it be a friend you used to drink and laugh with at your favorite bar, an ex best friend that once was the girl you turned to for everything or even, the love of your past life. I say past life because that's just what it was - another life. The life that you shared with those people is over and instead of dwelling, we need to embrace those moments and take them for what they are - learning experiences. Souls will meet because it's what we need to grow, but sometimes those souls drift apart - when they want different things and take different paths. As heartbreaking as it may be, those moments in life make us stronger, better and more resilient. Embrace heartbreak and let it lead you to a better tomorrow.

Nothing in the world is completely wrong; even a stopped clock is right twice a day (Paulo Coelho's words, not mine). Someone in the world loves you and wants you to succeed. Don't dwell on the small travesties of life. Take your trials as a learning experience and pick yourself up. Everyone falls, you will fall... But it's getting up that makes life so important.

Love is what makes us strong and gives us hope. Love yourself. Truly. Even with your flaws. You are beautiful just the way you are. Don't let drugs alter your state of mind. Let YOU do it. Drugs and alcohol are not the solution, they are a distraction from your dreams. Focus. Have your fun; don't drown in it. Because as high as those drugs take you, as low they will make you fall. You can't control substances...what you can control is the knowledge you feed your brain, the nutrients you give your body and the people you let into your life. Life is like a cup, you need to fill it with water to survive. But fill your own cup, don't depend on others to do it for you. If you fill your own cup, it will stay stable. Don't let other people or things be your water. Let them in to paint and color your water, but don't let them BE the painting or your water. Heartbreak happens, but don't let it define you.